Away from her screen career, Cates was a mother to twins Naiia and Jakob, whom she shared with actor Skeet Ulrich. The couple married in 1997 and divorced in 2005. Naiia’s tribute focused on personal memories rather than professional achievements, recalling her mother’s humor, distinctive style, and creative interests. She expressed gratitude for the curiosity and individuality Cates brought to her life. Ulrich responded with a message of support for their daughter as she remembered her mother.
Cates also explored photography, extending her creative interests beyond acting. Her daughter’s remembrance offered an intimate perspective on a woman audiences primarily knew through her performances. It acknowledged difficult experiences while celebrating her ability to find laughter and remain herself. Together, the family’s memories and her screen work preserve different aspects of her life: the performer who pursued challenging opportunities and the mother whose personality remains vivid to those who loved her.